...before its too late...

Don't they say hindsight is 20/20? Well thank goodness that I haven't forgotton what I learned in hindsight.

My last post about Jim, was in the lonely, maybe he has changed, phase.

In the words of my friend's mother, "Are you kidding, only one in a million actually change...and honestly who wants to be with someone they feel like they need to change?"

Thanks Mrs. D! Of course you're right, and you lead me to my epiphany on past relationships.

I've always told friends who have had problems with relationships, "There's one common denominator in every relationship you've been in. YOU!" (thanks Wilso) Believing in this myself, I've already idenified where they always went wrong. However, I couldn't figure out WHY. They all start out the same. Them being completely into me; the return being somewhat hesitant because I have hang ups. They are all incredible at first, and in time--I start to really like them. Somewhere half-way through the duration, the newness wears off and everything that I ignored has come to light. So, I start to bitch about how things "used to be" which in turn, pushes them away. Hence, ending the relationship because I'm so unhappy.

I was on my way home from work one afternoon last week and it all hit me in the forehead. I start dating them in the beginning thinking that I'm enough to change for. In all honesty, I'm not, nor do I want to be. In the words of Mrs. D, "...who wants to be with someone they feel they need to change." There you have it Ladies and Gentleman, don't start dating someone because you think they'll change, or things can be different, or blah blah blah. Pay attention to the red flags. This is supposed to be a no brainer right?

No, because people get lonely and settle.

So here's a toast to you MR. Jim...I will not be returning your random texts. I will not pay any attention to your random rants about not drinking as much, and that odd relationship you have with your sister. You were my friend, but can never have that part of me again. Because you might as well join the ranks of the Skank-A-Lank that you didn't return my calls for.